Nine Months. I’ve now been living in
Malawi,
Africa for nine months. The journey has been wonderful,
amazing, life-changing, and difficult. Most of my posts have discussed the
miracles, beauty, hardship, and culture I see all around me. Although all of
this is important and impacting, I want to share a bit of what’s been going on
inside me- my personal struggles here. As much as I love it here, I would be
lying if I said it has been easy. I have grown immensely in the past nine
months, and particularly in the past thirty days. I am going to take a big step
and be vulnerable in this post.
Everything I depended on or put confidence in has been
knocked from under me. Before coming here, I felt secure in who I was and what
I was doing. I graduated with honors, excelled in my teaching experience, felt
I had solid friendships, an amazing family, and I was headed to fulfill my life
goal of teaching and spreading Christ in Africa. Not
many people can say they reached their objective at 22. Little did I know what
God had in store. I am separated from those I love, unable to rely on them, and
everything has been slowly breaking. It started with my teaching ability…
My classroom management was suffering, my grading system was a mess, I was
overwhelmed with the small class of fourteen students, and I was failing.
Parents were upset, students felt hurt, and I was at a loss on how to fix it.
My good intentions and pride in my own ability led me to a place of
disappointment and disorder. I was wrong and had to figure out how to mend what
I had broken.
Then to top it off, the friendships and relationships I have
here and back home have been distant.
Skype is unpredictable, email is impersonal, and Facebook is
just not enough. Not to mention, the time difference makes it almost impossible
to connect regularly. Naturally, life in America
is moving forward and I am not a part of it. Friends are getting married,
graduating, starting their careers, and just doing life while I am thousands of
miles away. I have felt very detached from home. The closer I come to
returning, the harder it gets to wait and be patient. I felt my first waves of
true homesickness in the past month.
My small security and community here at ABC has also been tested. Gossip and bitterness
have severed relationships and brought distrust. It is very complex and thorny
to have your professional and personal life cross and intertwine. Any mistake
you make is open for public discussion. It is like living in a very, very small
town. Although there are so many benefits (such as close relationships, a tight
knit community, Bible studies, support, etc), the negative side is that people
like to talk. In addition, illness has hit our campus. Malaria has been
affecting those I am close to, and it is frightening. When I haven’t been
teaching, I’ve been acting nurse.
By the end of last week, I had nothing left to give, all my
strength gone. I was running on minimal sleep, reevaluating my whole style and philosophy
of teaching, dealing with homesickness, feeling isolated and confused, and
beginning to question what in the world I was thinking when I jumped on a plane
to Africa. Spring break could not have come at a better
time.
Literally, everything I hope in has been stripped away. This weekend I have had
to decide, what do I have when all else is gone? I have been broken down to the
core. All I have is Christ. There is nothing else to uphold me. In Him I must
trust, and in Him I must find my rest, joy, and peace. Though all else may be
shaken, tumultuous, and a web of confusion, it is in His arms I can regain my
vision.
I trust that He is still in control and ultimately, my purpose in serving Him
here in Africa is still in place. I don’t think I can say
it any better than Paul did in 2 Corinthians
4:7-18. God doesn’t place His glory in pretty, little packages of
perfection. Instead, He delights in using broken jars of clay. He is the only
one who can bring beauty out of ashes, and joy from pain.
“But
we have this treasure in jars of clay
to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. 8 We are hard pressed on every side, but not
crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9 persecuted,
but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 10 We always carry around in our body the
death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body.
11 For we who are alive are always
being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that his life may also be
revealed in our mortal body. 12 So
then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you.
13 It
is written: “I believed; therefore I have spoken.” Since we have that same
spirit of faith, we also believe and therefore speak 14 because
we know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus from the dead will also raise us
with Jesus and present us with you to himself. 15 All this is for your benefit, so that
the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to
overflow to the glory of God.
16 Therefore
we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are
being renewed day by day. 17 For our light and momentary troubles are
achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18 So
we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen
is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
Troubles come and go, but my foundation remains the same.